Divorced parents with children will tell you that one of the hardest times of the year is the holiday season. Indeed, not only do the months of November and December often mean the first time spending holidays as a divorced person--which can be emotional in itself--but it can also mean disagreements regarding with whom a shared child will spend holidays. Here are some tips for divorced parents for sharing custody over the holidays:
Put a Plan Together in Advance
When it comes to creating a time-sharing arrangement over the holidays, creating a plan as early as possible--before the stress of the holidays really hits--is ideal. For example, if you know that you are going to be traveling over Christmas, tell your ex-spouse this NOW so that you can be on the same page regarding childcare during that time.
If You Have a Court Order, Stick to It
If you and your spouse already have a court order dictating how time will be shared during the holidays, stick to. Failing to adhere to a court order can not only make people upset and cause more conflict and drama, but doing so is also a serious offense.
Keep an Open Mind and Be Willing to Compromise
We understand that you want to spend as much time as possible with your child, and during the holidays, this sentiment may be intensified. However, remember that your spouse equally wants this too, and that the most important thing is thinking about the needs of your child. Your child loves both of you, and should never feel as though they are in the middle of your disputes or a tug-of-war. Be willing to compromise and work with your ex-spouse to reach an agreement that works for everyone.
Consider the Options
Finally, consider all of the options that are available to you, including having your child spend a full holiday with your ex-spouse in exchange for you getting the child for the entirety of a different holiday, splitting the holiday 50/50 (i.e. Christmas eve vs. Christmas day or Christmas day vs. Christmas night), or even spending the holiday together with both parents.
Need Help with Parenting Arrangements Over the Holidays? Call Us
If you are having trouble reaching a parenting arrangement over the holidays, working with an attorney may be necessary. At the firm of the Bombardo Law Office, P.C., our caring New York child custody attorney knows how stressful custody and timesharing issues can be, and is here to help you understand options and secure the best arrangement possible. Please contact us today for a consultation with a lawyer you can trust.